Avadhoot Dandekar

Have you ever come across of a perfect person in order to find a perfect relationship? Please watch this video of Sadhguru on ‘How do I find my Soulmate?’ At 4:27 Sadhguru is saying, “SOUL DOESN’T NEED A MATE”. I have never come across of such a soul that exists so independently and doesn’t need any kind of a need or a relationship. Where does this soul exist? Outside of our bodies, may be an invisible ghost, who knows. And some ghosts have also been found to be molesting women (there are stories). Albert Einstein said, “ ………… the concept of a soul without a body seem to me to be empty and devoid of meaning.” Now, come on Albert Einstein, you were a brilliant scientist man, and he is a mystic. He can say anything that is not scientific. You don’t have that liberty being a scientist. Now the youth will be in search of a soul that is independent of a body so that it doesn’t need a mate. And the questions of any quarrel, fight, friendship, hate, love, etc. will not arise at all. Why? Because the soul doesn’t need a mate. It seems, the soul is a perfect thing really. LOL :)

We all have needs and desires. The needs are small and the desires are big. This big and small is the differentiation. And the desires can be infinite too. All our needs are just normal and natural. And it’s just normal and natural to fulfill all our needs. Just like how we drink water, eat our food, and take a nap. A soul is not something that exists independent of you. It’s just like the fragrance of a flower. The fragrance is not independent of the seed and the flower. The whole process is connected. It’s an unifying thing in all of us. It’s a spiritual thing. It’s an unifying center of our physical, emotional, and intellectual centers. We all exist at these three levels: physical, emotional, and intellectual. This head, heart, and hand are not three different things. They are different manifestations of the same reality. We all appear as different and plural at the level of our bodies and minds. And we all are connected through a common thread passing through our common centers. Our soul is that common center. Our soul (Atman) is connected to the supreme soul (Paramatman). This is that non-dual which present in all of us. We will never come accross of the soul as a physical thing. Even the scientists will never come across of the same as a physical thing. It is more psychological and spiritual. It is more like a deeper understanding and experience. The soul is the experience of the unconditioning, non-attachment, and non-identification of the mind. It gives us the experience of the freedom from the past (memories) and the future (imaginations). It frees the mind from all these and gives the freedom of the timeless present. If you ask the doctor to show you the soul in your body, he will just laugh. It is a spiritual space of freedom in your own being, and it is not a physical thing.

We all exist at three levels - the body (physical), heart (emotional), and mind (intellectual). We all may have differences at these three levels. And at the level of the soul these differences are eased out. Because at the level of the soul we can not be two different personalities. We become two unique individuals and recognize that our soul is the same and the same is connected to that one divine (non-dual, advaitam). At this level of the soul all are differences are eased out. This is a melting point of all our differences. This is a melting point of all our differences. There are three kinds of love: body-body love, mind-mind love, and soul-soul love. We can move from body-body love to soul-soul love. At the level of the body and the mind the love can be conditional. It can be give and take. It can be transactional. And at the level of the soul, the love is unconditional. It is transformational. So, Sadhguru’s assertion that the soul doesn’t need a mate is illogical and irrational. It’s unscientific and also non-spiritual. At the soul-soul love, we have more freedom and friendship. The love at this level transcends the boundaries of our physical bodies and moves into higher dimensions. And this is our spiritual dimension. This is where we encounter with the spiritual love. And this love has no death and no decay. It’s everlasting and immortal. And in India we depict this love through Shiva and Shakti, Radha and Krishna, metaphorically and symbolically.

Every relationship is a two-way traffic. And it can’t be a one-way side track. Neither win-lose works, nor lose-win works. The only relationship that works is a win-win relationship. There are three kinds of love: body-body love, mind-mind love, and soul-soul love. At the level of the body and the mind the love is conditional and we have less freedom. And at the level of the soul we have more freedom and friendship. The love at this level is unconditional and transcends the boundaries of our physical bodies and moves into a higher dimension. And this is our spiritual dimension. This is where we encounter with the spiritual love. And this love has no death and decay. It is everlasting and immortal.